Tuesday, May 12, 2009

British Mom gets plastic surgery to look like her Daughter



This is a classic example of the effects of the Beauty Myth and the devaluing of older women in our society. We have taught ourselves to value youth and "beauty" above all else, and when we lack either, our society seems to encourage us to change ourselves in some way.

Although I have never heard of this kind of thing, it is apparently becoming a trend. Mothers feeling a loss of something in their own lives and needing to change their physical appearances, to match those of their daughters.

There are so many deep-seeded issues with this that I don't really know where to begin. I completely understand feeling self-conscious or disliking parts of ones self...after all, we live in a society which teaches us to look, act, and literally be whatever it tells us to....and we listen.

Plastic surgery is no new phenomenon, nor are the critiques that have developed over the past 2 decades. It is no secret that plastic surgery (when used as a cosmetic) signifies some level of one's distaste for parts of her/his own body. (I say this because it's the truth, not my opinion)

My only question is what causes so many people to dislike their bodies so intensely that they have to change every part of it, almost to nonrecognition?

We are failing ourselves.

We, as a society, are failing each other because we allow the influence of media, which we create, to dictate the lives of others. Yes, we are dictating each others life choices through fashion trends, advertisements, and mass media productions.

Now, I don't know how to change this directly, but at some point, we have to start taking care of each other......as a society. We can't continue to force people (yes, force...psychologically) into small boxes where they feel they must take extreme measures to escape.

There are so many women, and men, who feel inadequate in this society, and I'm sure they feel closed in by the pressures to be perfect.

What can we do to stop this trend?

I am beautiful as I am. I am the shape that was gifted. My breasts are no longer perky and upright like when I was a teenager. My hips are wider than that of a fashion model's. For this I am glad, for these are the signs of a life lived.
~Cindy Olsen, co-owner of The Body Objective

1 comment:

MilesPerHour said...

I think people lack an acceptance of themselves and lose sight that who they are makes them beautiful.

It's not a lack of self esteem, it's a lack of other-esteem.