Tuesday, May 12, 2009

British Mom gets plastic surgery to look like her Daughter



This is a classic example of the effects of the Beauty Myth and the devaluing of older women in our society. We have taught ourselves to value youth and "beauty" above all else, and when we lack either, our society seems to encourage us to change ourselves in some way.

Although I have never heard of this kind of thing, it is apparently becoming a trend. Mothers feeling a loss of something in their own lives and needing to change their physical appearances, to match those of their daughters.

There are so many deep-seeded issues with this that I don't really know where to begin. I completely understand feeling self-conscious or disliking parts of ones self...after all, we live in a society which teaches us to look, act, and literally be whatever it tells us to....and we listen.

Plastic surgery is no new phenomenon, nor are the critiques that have developed over the past 2 decades. It is no secret that plastic surgery (when used as a cosmetic) signifies some level of one's distaste for parts of her/his own body. (I say this because it's the truth, not my opinion)

My only question is what causes so many people to dislike their bodies so intensely that they have to change every part of it, almost to nonrecognition?

We are failing ourselves.

We, as a society, are failing each other because we allow the influence of media, which we create, to dictate the lives of others. Yes, we are dictating each others life choices through fashion trends, advertisements, and mass media productions.

Now, I don't know how to change this directly, but at some point, we have to start taking care of each other......as a society. We can't continue to force people (yes, force...psychologically) into small boxes where they feel they must take extreme measures to escape.

There are so many women, and men, who feel inadequate in this society, and I'm sure they feel closed in by the pressures to be perfect.

What can we do to stop this trend?

I am beautiful as I am. I am the shape that was gifted. My breasts are no longer perky and upright like when I was a teenager. My hips are wider than that of a fashion model's. For this I am glad, for these are the signs of a life lived.
~Cindy Olsen, co-owner of The Body Objective

Wednesday, May 6, 2009

Disney's "The Princess and the Frog"- My stream of consciousness

This will be the first time Disney has created a princess movie where the princess is Black....But I have this weird feeling about it and I'm not sure it's justified...

So, I know the girl has dark skin and clearly by her voice, she's suppose to be Black...but...I know I don't look like her...and I don't think I've come across many Black women who do. Honestly, I feel like they just drew a white princess and painted her a lil bit darker lol.

But is that bad? Like, I know some would probably have found it offensive if they had given her "Black" features (notice the quotes cuz what are Black features really?), but I'm not quite satisfied with how she looks. Just like I was never satisfied with my Black barbies as a kid . They just looked like regular barbie with darker skin...not like any Black woman I had ever seen.

Am I wrong for being so critical or should I just be happy that they're finally coming out with something like this? I feel guilty for my dissatisfaction.

I dunno...it's a hard thing to think about because I soooo badly wanna feel excited about a Black princess...I just feel like her image is inaccurate.

But I could just be trippin...

I mean, did any of the characters actually look Black to yall? Even the prince and the bad guy? I know we as Black people are very versatile in our complections and facial features, especially in New Orleans.

So maybe they are making the movie accurate and I'm just fishing...I dunno lol...she is just a cartoon, after all...

You tell me!